Family & Friends Advice

Princess Know-It-All here!
      Everyone has family and/or friend troubles at some point in their life. Like, remember kindergarten when you and your friends all fought over the bubble gum pink crayon? Or the fairy princess doll? Well, when you get older, things like that still happen. Only this time it's usually about not texting someone 24/7 or it's about flirting with your bestie's crush. It can cause A LOT of trouble, even In-School Wars (that's a bit extreme, you get it though). Maybe things a little more serious happen to you, but you see my point. Just little things can start an argument or a fight, and no one likes to lose.
      Family is complicated too. Everyone who has a sibling knows how they can bug you, like your older sister's annoying chewing. Sometimes your parents can drive you crazy too. These family complications are much more difficult, since you, ya know, live with them and all. But just ask for advice here and I'll do my best to help you sort it out.

Yours Truly,

Princess Know-It-All

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7/30/15
Today's family and friends question comes from Guilty Gossiper, who writes:

Princess Know-It-All, I have no idea what to do right now! Recently my best friend told me she had a crush on a total dork! She made me swear not to tell anyone--but I couldn't resist telling my five other best friends about it. Now my best friend is really mad at me because the rumor about who she likes is spreading like wildfire around the school and it's all my fault. I shouldn't have told my other friends, but I didn't think they would tell! What should I do??

-Guilty Gossiper

From Princess Know-It-All:

Dear Guilty Gossiper,

I know how hard it can be to keep your mouth shut about your best friend's deepest, darkest secrets! But okay, maybe telling your other friends your best friend's deepest, darkest secret wasn't the coolest thing to do. Your BFF is probably kind of betrayed right now, even if you didn't mean for this to become a school wide rumor. So what should you do to repair your friendship? Tell her how you feel. Make her understand how sorry you are. She needs to realize that you didn't mean to start this rumor and help her to see it from your point of view. However, try to see it from her point of view, too. And if she won't talk to you at first, it's okay to give her some space.

So what about the rumor? Well, it's too late to keep everyone from knowing. But what you can do is make it not seem like such a big deal. So if someone comes up to you and mentions the rumor, just say something like, "You can't believe everything you hear." Or if they say something about how shocking it is that she likes a dork, you can just respond with a, "So what?" This will take some of the power away from the rumor, and eventually people will forget about it. Who cares who your BFF likes anyway, as long as this "total dork" is a nice guy? Also, if you can, try to get your other friends who started the rumor to apologize to your BFF too. Right now your friend really just needs some people to trust. Don't give up on her!

Yours Truly,

Princess Know-It-All