Okay, so how many of you have ever been jealous of your best friend? Seriously. Even if you haven't ever been jealous of them, you have to admit they almost always have something cool that you don't. A trampoline? A talent for dancing? They're super pretty and get all the guys? Basically, pretty much everyone has something you don't. I mean, we're all completely different people! So what do you do if it feels like you're always stuck in your BFF's shadow, you're always left at home while they go to all the awesome places and do all the awesome stuff and be awesomely talented without you?
First things first, look at yourself. I don't mean literally, like looking in a mirror or something (you can do that too, though), look at your accomplishments. What do you love to do? What are you good at? What do your parents or other friends praise you for? You must have some talent that other people love about you, even if you haven't figured it out yet. And who knows? Maybe your BFF is jealous of you for having that cool talent that they don't have.
Second, figure out what you want of yourself and do something about it. Why are you jealous of your best friend? Maybe they're really good at soccer and you're bad at it. So what? Just keep having fun with the activities that you're really good at, and if you're not in any clubs, join some! Or ask your BFF to hang out and help you with developing your soccer skills. Maybe they're really pretty. This time, literally look at yourself in a mirror. You might be prettier than you remember, after all that negative self talk. And if not, who cares, you're obviously not an ugly freak if you became best friends with a "really pretty" person. And what if your bestie has fashionable clothes and you don't? Ask your parents to buy you some new ones! As long as you're also giving away those old, lame clothes to thrift shops or wherever, your parents will be more likely to get you trendy ones.
And third, you were obviously good enough to be your bestie's BFF. But if you still feel insecure about this friendship, talk to them. Being honest with your BFF is one of the best ways to make sure you don't drift apart. It might be hard--really hard--and maybe pretty awkward at first, too, but it will get easier, and if your BFF really is your BFF, they won't push you away for being honest.
Most importantly, remember that no matter what, comparing yourself to others is usually how you get jealous in the first place. Stop comparing and just have fun with your best friend!
Yours Truly,
Princess Know-It-All
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